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Design and create who you wish to be

Design and create who you wish to be:

When we have a problem, we can approach it in two ways, manage the symptoms of the problem, or fix the root cause.  If we have a leaking roof, we can put a bucket under the leak, or fix the hole in the roof.  Clearly the former will mean always having to put buckets under the roof, whereas the later will mean the problem is completely resolved, and we can enjoy this resolution (a dry home) without any further effort or attention.

We can assume that certain circumstances will always result in certain reactions and feelings on our part, we all react to circumstances.  Maybe being away from loved ones means a feeling of loneliness and isolation, standing on top of a very high mountain will mean fear of falling, having a poisonous snake close to you means fear of being bitten.

The truth is that this is never the case, all our reactions are programmed in childhood, and as adults, we just replay these re-programmings whenever we are in a similar situation to the original one where we made the original program.  For example many children are understandably taught fear of snakes by their parents or others when very young, but in a family of snake charmers, children will be taught that snakes are good, and that they can bring a source of income.  Children in these families are likely to program that snakes are good and nothing to be feared, and will not feel fear when handling snakes, instead they may feel respect and love for them.

Now here’s the thing, everything we have programmed can be re-programmed.  We can reprogram the feeling of isolation to be a feeling of freedom, we can change the fear of height to excitement, and the fear of being bitten to respect of the snake.

The way this is done, in a very quick explanation, is to remember your earliest memory of when you had the particular reaction, and then talk with this inner child, and re-program and imagine the new reaction to this circumstance that you wish to have.  In this way you start to reprogram yourself, and will start to react and feel differently in the particular circumstance, so instead of feeling isolated, you will start to feel freedom, if this is what you program.

This process has to be done repeatedly, in layers, so you go deeper each time, programmings that have been reinforced over decades will not usually reprogram in one session, but sometimes you can get very quick, sometimes even startling results, very quickly.

One of the benefits of this technique is that it works best when you are having the unwanted reaction, so it is something where you can use the problem itself to fix the problem.  It can also be used to resolve any issue in your life, not just emotional ones, for example if we have repeated money issues this can be because of programs we are running about always having to be short of money and work hard.

Having this technique puts you in the extraordinary position of being able to design and create a new person in your life, the one you choose to be, rather than the one inherited from your upbringing.  My belief and experience is that there is no limit to how far you can go with this, with the correct training you can reprogram yourself to be entirely blissful and calm, and enjoy circumstances that before may have caused extreme stress, fear, and misery, and this is something I have been working at for over 3 decades personally and professionally.  Taking this to an extreme for example, a soldier could reprogram himself to be entirely calm when going into battle.

These reprogramming techniques are used in a number of different therapies such as Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), and to a lesser extent in cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP).  However my experience is that it is only when we reprogram the inner child do we really get to the root of the problem, and in having done over a 1000 hours of personal reprogramming, I have developed my own techniques.

If you wish to find out more, you can research EFT and other therapies online, or I can be contacted on

Wishing you well on your journey.

Marcus White





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